Be Unapologetically Yourself

We’ll never allow ourselves to be everything we’re made to be, if we always try to be what other people expect us to be. Expectations fall short almost every time. Even if you think you’re doing the right thing by being what the world tells you to be, it doesn’t mean that it’s the right thing for you. Read for some tips on how to be unapologetically yourself:

Carve your own path, and don’t apologize for it.

As a writer, I was always pulled in a thousand different directions. For a long time, a part of me felt guilty when I wasn’t doing what other people ‘thought I should do’. Looking back now on the things people used to say to me because I wasn’t where they thought I should be almost feels unreal. Just because somebody doesn’t understand your journey, doesn’t mean it’s not the right journey for you. No two paths are the same, yet they are all equally far from straight.

I loved creative writing since the day I was able to pick up a pencil, filling up notebook after notebook daily. I remember multiple people throughout my life telling me I would never make it as a writer, that I should ‘just go out and get a real job’. After many years, there came a point where I stopped allowing what other people influence me, because I knew my dreams were planted in me for a reason. I feel empty without filling pages with words. If there’s something you love doing and can’t imagine your life without, don’t fall trapped by others’ opinions on what they think you should do. Never apologize for something you love doing and know you’re meant to do. After all, nobody else is walking in your shoes except you.

Never feel like you have to explain yourself.

Why do we feel like we need to explain why we do certain things and why we make certain decisions? I look back on all the times I over explained decisions I made, or tried to reason with why things weren’t moving as fast as they should’ve, just to realize that I didn’t owe anybody any explanation. The only person we should ever owe an explanation to is ourselves. Not everybody needs to know everything all the time, because not everybody can see the whole picture from beginning to end like you can. Never feel like you have to explain why you are or aren’t doing something. Only you know what’s best for you, bottom line.

Stop the cycle of comparison.

Comparing ourselves to others ultimately leaves us nowhere, besides down a destructive path of hurt and pain. The saying is true that the only person we need to compare ourselves to is the person we were yesterday. Your day one won’t look like somebody else’s day 100, but growth comes with time. Besides, if we had everything that somebody else had, we might find out we didn’t want it after all. Push yourself to be the best you can be, without succumbing to the pressure of comparing yourself to anyone else.

Never apologize for who you are or who you desire to be. Life is hard enough without the added pressure from people who are supposed to be rooting for you. Always be unapologetically yourself, no matter what it takes.

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  1. 10.27.23
    Patty said:

    Amazing content! You are definitely doing what you were meant to do! Praying for your success!

  2. 2.12.24

    This is such a great lesson to learn. Thanks for sharing.