The Hard Truth About Change

The hard truth about change.

Change can be the most pivotal point in our direction. It can either signify a turning point we were hoping for, or it can happen out of nowhere. I used to never handle change well—whether I knew it was coming or not, the result was always the same. It’s hard to accept when things change, since we’re used to what we’ve always known. But we have to accept change if we ever want to grow. You can’t expect to grow and always remain planted exactly where you are. Accepting things might be different than we envisioned is one of the hardest parts of change. Holding onto the past is useless. It gets us nowhere, instead of wishing we were somewhere else than in the present moment. Change is inevitable, but there are hard truths about change that will help us navigate through any situation we face.

Nothing Can Prevent Change From Happening

No amount of wishing or hoping can stop change from happening in our lives. Learn to be comfortable with the uncomfortable. Sometimes in the situations we’re faced with, we’ll feel completely out of place. If nothing ever changed, we would never grow. Growing takes place over time, and pushing forward is the only way through. Change isn’t meant to keep us exactly where we are. If we ever want to grow into who we’re supposed to be, we need to accept that nothing can stop change from happening. Lean into it, not away from it. We always want to cling to what we know. Stop holding tight to what you’ve always known so you can learn the beauty of letting go. It’s always uncomfortable at first, but embracing change will help us bloom into who we’re meant to be.



Change Reveals Layers Of Ourselves We Didn’t Know Existed

Change can come into our lives when we’re least expecting it, aligning our steps on the path we’re meant to walk on. The year before I worked at Disney as an intern (almost 12 years ago), I sat next to a woman I didn’t know at a friend’s event. After asking my age, she mentioned how her daughter was turning 19 also and was working at Disney for a semester. When she suggested I check out the Disney College Program, I probably looked at her like she was crazy. I politely told her ‘thank you’, but in my head, I was thinking ‘absolutely no way’. There was no way I could leave my family/friends/college, and move 2,000 miles away from everything I knew.

Fast-forward a year later, and you can probably guess from this throwback picture what ended up happening:

I was living in Orlando, working at Disney as an intern for the Disney College Program. I learned about the program from a recruiter on campus months prior, and I didn’t even think twice about my conversation with that woman until I was actually working for Disney. Initially, I never pictured myself doing the program because of the fear of change, of what the unknown might look like. It’s ironic because I look back on those days, and they are still some of my best and most treasured memories. I grew so much in such a short amount of time, and it revealed layers of myself that I didn’t know existed. It’s as if a random stranger prepared me for what was to come, even though I didn’t realize it until much later. We’ll never know what’s waiting for us in the next chapter, until we’re willing to turn the page.

Let Go Of Any Expectations 

When I finally landed what I thought was my ‘dream’ writing job, I had such high expectations. I thought I was going to love every aspect of it and that this job was it for me. Until that door unexpectedly closed, I was forced with the reality that I was trying to live up to expectations I set in my head. Even if we think something will happen in a certain way, nothing is guaranteed. The only expectation we should have about change is that anything can change, at any given moment. Enjoy what you have while you have it, but let go of any reserved expectations you have. We can lose things as fast as we gain them, but it doesn’t mean it’s not the best thing for us. Things might not turn out how we envision them. If we let go of expectations, we’ll find chances for more opportunities to weave in our lives.

Focus On What Change Is Bringing You, Even If You Can’t See It Right Away

When I reflect on all the times I experienced change, there were many times it happened faster than I could process. We don’t always have to make sense of why things are happening, because those answers will come in time. When I can’t understand why something is happening in my life, I try to take a few moments to ask myself: What am I learning? Do I need to work on patience?  Is it allowing me to grow in areas I lack in? Step outside the situation and shift your perspective. Viewing the situation in a different light can bring new understanding, which might happen through change. Focus on the lessons and lessen the grip of trying to understand why. One day, when you look back, you’ll always see what change brought you and the reason things happened the way they did. 



You Might Lose People In The Process

To me, this is one of the hardest parts about accepting change and learning how to let go. Not everyone will make it to the next part of your journey, because some people aren’t meant to. Picture yourself at a crossroad, each path with a clearly defined sign indicating two different directions. Walking a different path can be one of the hardest decisions, because not everybody will stay on the same path as you. I lost some people in my life I never imagined losing, but it was our time. I’d like to believe that we leave a little piece of ourselves with every person we meet, and vice versa. Eventually, we’re all walking around with these tiny little pieces of all the people and places we’ve known, molding us into who we are.

Some people are only meant to be in our lives for a period of time, but it’s all a part of the process of changing and growing. Some people will never reach the destination with you, because we each have our own path. Accept you might lose people in the process of change, but trust those meant for you will find a way to you.

The only guarantee about change is change itself. It can be difficult to navigate through the different seasons and chapters of change. Hold onto the hope that everything will always change for the better. It will always work out in the end, even if it doesn’t feel that way yet. 

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18 Comments

  1. 12.7.23
    Melissa Klemish said:

    Beautifully written words. 🙂

  2. 1.23.24

    Love this post and your site is so pretty! What theme is it?

    • 1.23.24

      Thank you so much, that means a lot! It took me quite awhile to finally be satisfied with how my site looked 😂. But Empress themes! The themes are super customizable & you can always change out layouts after you purchase a theme.😊

  3. 1.23.24

    Love this, thanks for sharing.

  4. 1.23.24
    Sheenia said:

    Change is inevitable, but change can also be good. Thanks for sharing!

    • 1.23.24

      So true! Sometimes it can be the best thing for us even if we can’t see the reasoning right away. Thank you for reading!

  5. 1.23.24

    Change is one of the things that are guaranteed in life. It is up to us to decide if we going to evolve with it or stay behind.

    • 1.23.24

      Definitely agree with you. I’ve found it’s best to lean into it, not away from it because change is going to happen regardless!

  6. 1.23.24
    Asmaa said:

    It’s so inspiring! thank you for this beautiful post

  7. 1.23.24

    change is something that we all try to go away from but at the same time can be good for us all. I have had experiences on both and to tell you the truth learned through both good and bad

    • 1.24.24

      Absolutely! We’re always evolving, changing & growing with every experience we go through. ♥️

  8. 1.24.24

    I love this post. Change can be so scary and feel really unsettling at the time but often is exactly what we need!

    • 1.24.24

      Thank you so much! Yes it is—It’s uncomfortable stepping into the unknown but it always ends up working out in the end.

  9. 3.9.24

    Change is many times so hard. Over the years, I have certainly learned to embrace it and the positive things that can result from it. I only wish everyone could see the positive side of learning to deal with change.

    • 3.11.24

      So difficult!! I agree with you, it took me such a long time to learn how to always see the positive aspect of change, rather than focusing only on the negative. I think over time, we all learn that change is something that is going to happen regardless, so it’s important for us to learn how to appreciate the new experiences and growth that comes along with it!