5 Ways To Heal After A Friendship Breakup

5 ways to heal after a friendship breakup.

One of the most challenging experiences is learning how to heal after a relationship ends. When we think of ‘breakups’, our minds typically gravitate to dating and relationships. But friendship breakups can hurt just as much, considering the amount of time invested. Even throughout the past couple of years, I had to learn how to navigate the loss of friendships I never imagined losing. When someone is removed from your life, whether you’re expecting it or not, it’s hard to make sense of the reasons why. If you find yourself struggling with how to navigate through a friendship ending, here are 5 ways to heal after a friendship breakup:

1. Immerse Yourself In Your Feelings

Whether the friendship suddenly ended or happened over time, immerse yourself in your feelings and grieve the loss. It’s completely normal to grieve a part of your life that was once so important to you. It may feel like a heavy weight at first, but too often we try to be stronger than we need to be. Shoving your feelings aside will only bury your true feelings deeper, causing them to resurface later. We struggle to move on because we ignore our feelings, thinking the weight of it will go away.

Dig beneath the surface and allow yourself to feel all your feelings. No matter how uncomfortable or hard it may be. Healing and moving on may take more time, depending on the depth of the friendship. Most of the people we lose are such a significant part of our lives, which makes it harder to accept when it’s time to let go. Acknowledge how you feel and allow yourself to grieve, but don’t stay there longer than you need to. Life will always bring you another person to fill the void. Feel all that you need to feel so you can let it go. 

2. Acknowledge What The Friendship Brought You

We never start a friendship with the expectation that one day it’s going to end. I’m thankful for all my friendships throughout the years, because of the different things each person taught or gave me. When I reflect on past friendships, some of the hardest ones to let go were those who carried me and were with me through the most difficult times.

While loss is far from easy, it’s important to acknowledge each friendship—through all the ups and downs and everything in between. Some friendships might suddenly end and will immensely hurt. Appreciate what each relationship brought you, or what you brought them. You wouldn’t be who you are without all the people and experiences that shaped you along the way.

3. Avoid The Blame Game

An ending of a friendship doesn’t mean it was one person’s ‘fault’. There are countless reasons a friendship ends. Sometimes it’s in our control, and other times it’s not at all. Some people are stepping stones in our lives to help us grow and teach us things we wouldn’t know otherwise.

There’s no sense in blaming yourself or the other person for a friendship ending. Timing is everything, and sometimes it’s not your time with them anymore. Learning to accept things as they are, rather than leaning on our expectations, can help us release the weight of the heaviness we carry.

Refuse to hold onto bitterness or resentment, or the thoughts of what could’ve been. We’re constantly changing and evolving, which is the beauty of experiencing different people throughout our lives. Accept that some friendships might not align with your path anymore. Not everybody will make it to every stage of your life. Those meant to be in your life will always find their way. 

5 ways to heal after a friendship breakup.

4. Loosen Your Grip On The Past

You might’ve heard the saying: “To hold on halfway is harder than not holding on at all.” We may convince ourselves that holding on halfway to a friendship is easier than letting it go completely. But, what’s worse? Letting go or holding onto something that is no longer real?

There’s pain in holding onto the past. Cherish the memories you have, but don’t grip so hard that you don’t know how to let go. By focusing on the present moment and loosening your hold on the past, you’ll create more space in your life for the right people. We cling on to what’s familiar because it’s what we’ve always known. But the truth is, sometimes things end, so better things can come together.

5. Find Closure In The Midst Of It All

Whether the ending of the friendship was amicable or not, discover a way to find closure for yourself. When our minds are consumed with the past, moving on can be difficult. No matter how much we try to reason or make sense as to why things end, sometimes we have to accept a situation for what it is. Situations can feel senseless when we’re in the midst of it. It’s always easier to connect the pieces when we’re on the outside looking in.

The best way to find peace with a situation is to find the closure you need to move on, so it doesn’t consume you longer than necessary. Regardless if you receive closure from the other person or not. The best thing I did when friendships ended without explanation was learn how to seek closure for myself. I wrote letters I never sent. For me, it wasn’t about whether the person would read the letter or not, but rather a healthy release to get everything off my chest. 

The longer we hold onto something not meant for us, the harder it is to let go. You might not receive closure from the person you’re seeking closure from, but finding peace in the situation can help you accept it for what it is. A friendship breakup is never easy, but don’t be afraid to let go of the people who aren’t meant for you anymore. Remember that life will always replace your loss, no matter the amount of time.

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  1. 1.18.24
    Lani said:

    It is difficult to lose a friend, even if that friend hurt you. But cutting losses early, and forgiving yourself for that experience is very important. Thanks for this refreshing post.

    • 1.18.24

      Absolutely! Sometimes one of the hardest things we can go through. So important to remember forgiveness throughout the process. Thanks for reading!

  2. 1.22.24

    Losing a friendship is very difficult, especially if you’ve known that person for a lot of years. The best you can do is cherish all the ways it helped to shape you, and try to learn from it all.