Ways To Become Your Best Self In The New Year

Ways to become your best self in the new year.

Recently, I’ve read a lot about different ways to ‘become your best self’. Since I’m not big on New Year’s Resolutions (mainly because I usually forget what they are halfway through the year), I picked a word to focus on throughout 2024. The word I decided on was ‘intentional’, because I want to be intentional in everything I do. As I thought about what this would look like for me, I realized that making way for the person you want to be takes time. While your path will always look different from somebody else’s path, read on to learn ways to become your best self in the new year:

Reflect On What Is Working For You

If something isn’t working out, sometimes no matter how hard you try or want it to work, it’ll simply never work. Take time to reflect on everything that is working for you. Don’t focus on everything that isn’t. The easiest way for me to self-reflect is to write everything down. This includes voicing my thoughts, feelings, hopes, and desires. If writing isn’t your thing, there are still other ways to self-reflect, such as taking a walk to clear your head, or doing an activity that makes you feel good. Our heads can become so clogged with our situation, making it hard to separate how we feel from what we know. You might realize that something that was working for you months ago isn’t working any longer. Stepping outside your situation will help you reflect and be aware of the things you may not have seen before.

Never Underestimate The Power Of A Small Beginning

If there’s something you’ve been wanting to pursue, but are having trouble pushing yourself forward, remember that sometimes the best things start from the smallest beginnings. You likely won’t achieve success overnight. Starting often begins with one simple step. Things can turn around quicker than you can process, but you have to invest the amount of time necessary for things to change. Never underestimate the power of starting small. You never know where your path might lead you.

Balance What You Can and Can’t Control

Our minds fixate too much on what we can’t control, rather than what we can control. Even if something is taking longer than we hoped, we can’t speed up the process to make it go any faster. All we can do is focus on the present moment, and everything that is in our control. I’m a person who gets too far ahead of myself, instead of focusing on the one task in front of me. I want it all done as soon as possible, but that’s far from realistic. Direct your energy where it matters. There are so many situations that are completely out of our control. Focusing on what you can’t control will only leave you feeling more behind than you are.

Be Honest With Yourself

We ignore hard truths about ourselves that we don’t want to accept because it’s easier to bury the parts we don’t want to deal with. Here are a couple of things I know about myself to be true: I’m too hard on myself, and I overanalyze situations, especially ones where I can’t predict the outcome. I know these are hard truths I have to work on to become my best self, because regardless of how I feel, life will happen how it’s supposed to. Push yourself to go beyond the surface. Identify the root of the problem that’s preventing you from becoming the best version of yourself. Change is always uncomfortable at first. Especially when it comes to admitting things about yourself that you might not feel ready to admit. But taking simple steps, such as being honest, can help you become your best self.

Release Any Negativity

To become your best self, you need to release anything that’s dragging you down. There’s so much truth to the quote: “You become like the five people you spend the most time with.” While I’m thankful to have a core group of friends, I’ve also experienced many groups of people throughout different stages in my life. There were times I didn’t realize how much negativity certain people brought into my life. We’re the only ones who are in control of our actions and thoughts. But, who and what you surround yourself with can impact how you feel and act. Be careful investing your energy into the wrong things or people. Release any negativity to create space for the experiences and people who are meant to be in your life.

A new year gives us the opportunity to start with a blank slate and focus on the things we want or desire. Be patient if becoming the best version of yourself is taking more time than you expected—the best things happen over time.

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  1. 1.11.24
    Amanda said:

    I really love these ideas, especially never underestimating the power of a small beginning. What are beautiful idea.

  2. 1.14.24

    Love this post! I completely agree it’s so important to remember to start small with things and that success or any big acheivement doesn’t happen overnight and starting with those small steps is what makes the difference! 🙂

    • 1.15.24

      Thank you! ❤️ I absolutely agree with you. It’s hard when we get caught up in the need for instant gratification. But remembering to focus on the step in front of us and not the whole staircase is so important.

  3. 1.14.24

    I too love the idea of ‘never underestimate the power of a small beginning.’ It’s easy to feel that what you’re doing is trivial and to compare yourself and your actions negatively with others, instead of valuing who you are, and what you are doing and recognising the potential within yourself.

    • 1.15.24

      So true! Comparison really is the thief of joy. We always need to remember we each have our own talents for a reason, and that our own path will always look different than somebody else’s path.