6 Ways To Reconnect With Yourself When You’re Feeling Lost

6 ways to reconnect with yourself when you're feeling lost.

I recently came across an old journal from a few years ago. As I flipped through the entries, I mentioned more than once how I was struggling to find my purpose. I was in the middle of transitioning through different seasons in my life, and I had no idea where my life was headed at the time. While I knew where I wanted to be, it felt like nothing was falling into place how I envisioned it would, and I didn’t have the slightest clue on how to take the path to get there. 

Since I was completely lost in my direction, I started feeling disconnected from myself. Sometimes when we experience significant life changes, whether it’s a new job, graduating from college, moving to a new city, getting out of a long-term relationship, etc., it can cause us to feel disconnected from our own needs and emotions. I was so focused on how I lost I felt, that I wasn’t allowing myself to be present in the current moment I was in.

If you find yourself feeling lost or disconnected, being mindful of where you are can help enjoy where you’re at while you get where you want to be. I felt empty and unfulfilled because I was so focused on “when” my purpose would come together, instead of realizing that each day we have a purpose. Not just when we fulfill that dream, or accomplish a major goal. But in the little, everyday things. Our purpose isn’t found in what we do, but in who we are.

Our feelings are temporary and can leave as quickly as they come. Sometimes, when we feel disconnected from who we are, it can cause us to lose sight of who we are. If you’ve been feeling disconnected from yourself, it’s important to realign your purpose through all the ups and downs, without losing sight of yourself throughout the process. Here are 6 ways to reconnect with yourself when you’re feeling lost:

1. Acknowledge All Of Your Emotions

When we don’t allow ourselves the right amount of time to sulk in our emotions, we’ll only be digging them deeper. Since I felt lost and disconnected from myself for such a long time, it was easy for me to keep shoving the feelings aside. It was always a problem I told myself I could worry about later. When we aren’t taking the time to discover what we truly want and why we’re feeling the way we are, it prolongs the entire process. I never wanted to deal with the disconnect because I knew that it meant there were things in my life that I had to change, and part of me wasn’t ready to face that yet. But if I would’ve acknowledged those heavy feelings sooner, then it would’ve started the process of working through it, rather than just leaving it for a later problem. 

Acknowledge and allow yourself to feel all of your emotions so you can start working towards a plan on how to get reconnected with yourself. When we bury our feelings, we’re prolonging the inevitable, because eventually they’ll resurface later. If we recognize how we feel, we can start the process of learning how to work through them sooner. 

2. Appreciate Where You’re Currently At 

I was always stuck in the same place because I was always fixated on my problem. When we hold ourselves to an unrealistic standard because we aren’t where we want to be, it doesn’t mean that we’ve lost our purpose or sense of direction completely. We still have a purpose exactly where we’re at, and there’s always a reason why we are where we are. 

Our purpose isn't found in what we do, but rather in who we are.

For years, I dreamt of one day writing for my own publication. While I was writing for others at the time, I never knew how it would be possible to achieve that goal, so I could finally pursue that dream. I was caught up in the cycle of comparing myself not only to other people, but to where I thought I should be.  Rather than realizing, I had a purpose and reason for being exactly where I was. 

Taking your mind off of your problem and truly appreciating where you’re at will help you become more present in your daily life. Sometimes we need to remind ourselves to slow down, and to enjoy the entire process—not just the final result. 

3. List Out Steps To Achieve Your Goals 

While I was struggling with feeling lost and disconnected from myself and my purpose, I never actually took the time to discover how I could get where I wanted to be. It’s important for us to be mindful of where we’re at until we can get where we’re going. Everything comes in its timing, which is why we need to trust in that and make a plan on how we’re going to take the steps to achieve our goals. 

Listing out steps also helps our goals feel a lot more achievable in the long run, especially when we have something we’re actively working toward. Some questions that might help you throughout this process are: asking yourself how you can actively take steps to get there, and what you can do each day to help you reach that goal. Even if it’s taking little steps at a time, it helps the end goal feel a lot more achievable. 

I remember feeling frustrated multiple times because something wasn’t happening at the time I thought it should happen. Even if we think we’re ready for something, sometimes we’re not ready for it like we thought we were. Or maybe there’s another reason it’s not happening, even if we can’t understand it at the time. Everything always makes sense looking backward. 

While everything comes together in its timing, trusting and making a plan for how you can get there will help accomplish that goal. Remember, there’s a purpose for every moment you’re in. No matter how disconnected you might currently feel, it doesn’t mean that everything else won’t eventually connect and come together. 

4. Surround Yourself With The Right People

Whenever I’m feeling disconnected from myself, I always surround myself with the people who make me feel whole again. There’s something about being around the people who care about you more than anything, the ones who make you feel more like yourself. Sometimes it also helps you to not be so fixated on your situation, when you’re focused on something else entirely. Especially being surrounded by a loved one, releasing all of your feelings and getting it off your chest when you’re feeling a major disconnect with yourself. We always leave feeling better than before, and it can help shift our perspective to where we’re headed. 

5. Do Something That Makes You Happy

Alternatively to surrounding yourself with the right people, it’s important to make time just for you. When we spread ourselves thin and feel overwhelmed or burned out, it’s hard to feel connected to who we are. Set aside time to do something that makes you happy. Whether that’s dedicating an afternoon and doing an activity that brings you joy, or taking the time to relax and do absolutely nothing. Sometimes, when we’re so caught up in a situation, it’s easy for us to lose sight of what makes us feel like ourselves. If we take the time to connect with ourselves and do what makes us happy, it’s easier to focus on what’s most important. 

6. Journal How You Feel 

I’ve mentioned before how journaling always helps me gather my thoughts and get organized. The best part about physically writing out how you feel, is that it can help you articulate thoughts you didn’t even know you had. One method of journaling is doing a “brain dump”. This is where you write any and everything that comes to mind, without worrying about what you’re writing. When I journal this way, no matter how random my thoughts are or how much they might not make sense, it always helps me clear my head. It might even help you make connections you didn’t make before.

Another alternative to a brain dump for journaling, is making a list of journal prompts to help you identify your dreams and goals. Ideas for journal prompts when you’re trying to reconnect with yourself could include questions such as:

  • What are my passions and strengths?
  • What is holding me back from connecting with myself? (Ex. not taking the time to myself, spending time with the wrong people, etc.)
  • When I think about my purpose, what comes to mind?
  • What is most important to me and my “why”?
  • What are steps that I can take to get realigned, so I can reach my goals?

(Click here for your free PDF of these journal prompts to help with your own reflections!). Either journaling with a brain dump or listing out your dreams and goals can help you re-shift your focus, aligning your steps to match and find your purpose. 

When we transition through different seasons in our lives, we might find ourselves feeling lost or disconnected from who we are. Remind yourself that the feelings you’re experiencing are temporary, and they will eventually pass. Once we slow down and are mindful of where we’re at, it’ll help us get to where we’re going. And remember, just because you feel lost, doesn’t mean you’ll be lost forever. 

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  1. 3.7.24

    Love this so much! I felt like I was talking to a friend. Thank you for sharing this wisdom!

    • 3.8.24

      Aw I’m so glad!! Appreciate you reading ❤️

      • 3.22.24
        Vicki said:

        I love this post. I was recently talking with a colleague about this topic. Shared this with her because she REALLY needs to read this!

  2. 3.7.24
    Debbie said:

    Your post really resonated with me. I know the feeling of being unfulfilled, lost, and only focused on the future or the “when.” I like the tip to remind ourselves that the feeling of being lost is temporary, and will eventually pass and to stay present.

    • 3.8.24

      I’m glad it resonated with you! It’s so easy to get caught up in those moments when we’re constantly fixated on when our situation will change. Sometimes when we’re in a situation for what feels like a long time, it’s hard to believe there will ever be a way out. But accepting our current circumstances and trusting that it will all come together makes all the difference in giving us comfort & peace that it will eventually change ❤️

  3. 3.8.24

    This was needed. Thank you for sharing.

  4. 3.9.24
    Andrea said:

    Love this!! I think it’s easy to feel lost in life’s transitions, so these tips are really important.

  5. 3.9.24

    The 2nd step that is, ‘Appreciate Where You’re Currently At’ is what resonates with me. We need to be mindful of the present and not always thinking about what needs to be done in the next hour. Our moments, the ones we are currently living, are precious. The past is gone and tomorrow is a blur.

    • 3.11.24

      I’m glad that resonated with you! So precious, and anything can change in the blink of a moment. I always remind myself that things won’t always be like they are now, and it’s so important to appreciate exactly where we’re at.

  6. 3.10.24
    Juane said:

    Thanks for the great post! I’ve also been feeling a bit disoriented and lost lately because of some big changes. To be honest it’s quite challenging to climb out of this rabbit hole of thoughts and get back on track. I’m right now focussing on the point you mentioned about surrounding myself with the right people.

    • 3.11.24

      So sorry to hear that you’ve been going through a tough time. It’s especially difficult when we’re in the thick of it. But surrounding yourself with the right people who support and care about you can make all the difference! ❤️ Thinking of you & hope that you feel back to yourself sooner than later!

  7. 3.11.24
    Ben said:

    Very sound advice. In particular, the muscle memory of taking a step back and being mindful of what you have accomplished so far despite not quite being where you’d like to be. I have to remind myself of this often.

    • 3.11.24

      Thank you! & same here. It’s something that can be easily forgotten until we shift our mindset and realize how far we’ve actually come; rather than focusing on how far we have to go.

  8. 4.3.24
    Selene said:

    All of these are great recommendations. Sometimes we want everything to go according to plan, but when things move or don’t go as planned, we feel lost and ready to give up. We can always find our way back with actions that help us get back on track. Thank you for this!

    • 4.4.24

      Thank you! So true, I think it’s all about being open to things possibly not going the way we “expect” them to go. Everything always happens exactly how it’s supposed to & in the right timing!

  9. 4.4.24
    Angelia said:

    Great information! I have felt this way in the past, and it wasn’t easy to get out of my head at the time; journaling helped me. Thank you for sharing!

    • 4.4.24

      So hard when we’re stuck in a certain mindset or keep replaying the same things over and over. Journaling is so helpful for getting everything out, it always helps me shift my perspective when I’m stuck! There’s always something about being able to get everything on paper and releasing it all, that really helps. Thanks for reading!