Don’t Give People The Power To Make You Feel Small

Don't give people the power to make you feel small.

“I used to think the worst thing in life was to end up alone. It’s not. The worst thing in life is to end up with people who make you feel alone.” — Robin Williams 

I’ve thought about that quote many times since I first came across it years ago. There’s a hard truth to the reality of surrounding yourself with the wrong people or those who make you feel small. I mentioned before how I used to let others’ opinions affect decisions about my life. More specifically, people who made me feel like I wasn’t doing the right thing because I wasn’t meeting their expectations. By giving people power over how we feel, it starts to chip off layers of who we are. We might end up conforming to what other people want, instead of what we truly want and desire. Never give people the power to make you feel small. If you find yourself surrounded by people who make you feel that way, or you’re in the constant state of wanting to please others, remind yourself of these important truths:

Only You Are Responsible For How You Feel

It took me awhile to learn that we’re completely in control of our emotions and feelings, not others. As an empath, I’ve always felt everything at the deepest level, which often caused me to become attached to my emotions. I always wanted to please others, and would go at any cost to make that happen—even if it meant sacrificing my own feelings. We need to stop letting other people have control and power over our emotions and feelings. We can’t control what other people do, we can only control what we do. It can be hard to see a situation for what it is when we’re in the thick of it, but when we’re able to step outside, it’s easy to see things more clear. It’s not to say that we shouldn’t be conscious of how others feel, but instead learn how to separate absorbing those feelings, especially if it’s negative. There’s something freeing about not letting what other people do impact you and how you feel. Only you are responsible for your feelings, regardless of somebody else’s actions or thoughts.

Learn To Be Comfortable Saying No

Discover what your boundaries are and stick by them no matter what. This might look like learning how to be comfortable saying “no” when you’re used to saying “yes”. Always saying “yes”, regardless of how you actually feel, can lead to more problems later. Stand strong in how you feel, and never commit to something out of obligation if something doesn’t feel right. Nobody wants to be walked all over, and we should never be a doormat for other people. Let go of anything that no longer serves you. Once you start standing up for yourself, it’ll create more space in your life for the things and people you need most. Regaining your power takes time, and sometimes it starts with one simple step. 

Stop Making Excuses For People

Just because somebody always acts a certain way, doesn’t give them any excuse to treat you poorly. People treat you how you allow them to treat you. There were many times I didn’t even realize I was giving people power over how I felt, since I always wanted to keep the peace. We all face hard times, but no matter what we’re going through, it doesn’t give us an excuse to take it out on other people. It might be easy to dismiss behavior because it’s what you’re used to, but you’ll be happier in the long run if you call it for what it is. Stop making excuses for people who make you feel small and less than them.

Follow What Makes You Happy

Find your happiness and follow it, even if it doesn’t align to what other people think. Not everybody is going to agree with your decisions all the time, and they don’t have to. True happiness resides within. When somebody truly loves and cares for you, they’ll respect your decisions to follow what makes you happy. They won’t make you feel small or insignificant, instead they’ll support and encourage you. If we always follow what other people expect us to do instead, we can never be truly where we’re at in a given moment.

Refusing to give people the power to affect how you feel is the most freeing feeling. If you are willing to let go of the things that are no longer aligning in your life, you’ll create space for everything that lies ahead.

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  1. 12.4.23
    Katie Gotcher said:

    Great read. I feel this 100%!

  2. 1.30.24
    Angela said:

    Great read! Thank you!

  3. 1.30.24

    Thank you, great tips! This is hard to do but so worth it!<3

  4. 1.30.24
    Jada Rose said:

    Yes Andrea ! Another great post from you. Keep spreading empowering messages