The Importance Of Practicing Forgiveness For Your Inner Peace

The importance of practicing forgiveness for your inner peace.

For years, I was stuck in the back-and-forth cycle of trying to learn how to forgive somebody who profoundly hurt me, yet not knowing where to even start.

After being in a destructive and controlling relationship, I was trying to work through the trauma I experienced, while trying to forgive somebody who I felt was never remorseful to begin with. I thought that if I started to dig deep into the healing process and worked on forgiveness, it would be saying that what happened was completely okay as if it never happened.

However, what I didn’t realize at the time, was that by practicing forgiveness, it’s the complete opposite. When we forgive somebody else, we aren’t doing it for them, we’re doing it for ourselves. It’s acknowledging that what happened was real, and just because we forgive somebody, it doesn’t mean that it automatically erases what happened.

When we step outside the situation and realize that we’re practicing forgiveness for the sake of our mental health, it can help us regain our power and light back. The road to healing can feel long, but there’s so much importance in learning how to forgive others for your inner peace.

Practicing Forgiveness Can Renew Your Strength

There were many times, throughout that destructive relationship, that I remember feeling small and weak. Every time I tried to voice my opinion it was wrong, so my voice became nonexistent. After finally leaving that relationship, I knew I had to start the process of learning how to forgive. I didn’t realize how heavy the weight of unforgiveness was on me until I felt like I could no longer breathe. It started affecting my every thought, and it seemed like there was nothing I could do to lessen the pain. Once I realized how much it was affecting and consuming me, I knew that it was time I learned how to let go. My energy and emotions became so fixated on what I went through, that it started harming my mental health and bleeding into other areas of my life. I started realizing that my strength was found when I started learning how to let go.

The process of learning how to forgive helps you become more established in who you are and your values, while increasing your strength. You won’t be the same person who walked into the situation, but you won’t want to be. You’ll know exactly what you will and won’t accept in your life moving forward. You took a situation that tried to break you, and saw an opportunity for how it can make you better instead of bitter, renewing your inner strength.

Practicing Forgiveness Can Help You Let Go 

We can’t move on from the past if all we’re doing is holding on. When we put too much focus on a situation or a person we’re struggling to forgive, we’re not allowing ourselves to let go and move on. Forgiveness doesn’t mean excusing or forgetting what happened. Practicing forgiveness for your inner peace means learning how to look beyond what happened. Sometimes we focus too much on how to let go, which leaves us focusing on the wrong aspects.

Forgiveness requires you to look inward, to discover and find an understanding of why you can’t let go. For me, it felt like my trauma was so embedded in me that I felt wounded, and I wasn’t sure how to even start the process of healing. Let alone forgiving the other person involved. But what I learned is that the process of forgiveness can look different for each person. Once we’re able to focus and put our energy into something else other than the situation or person that hurt us deeply, we’ll start to heal so we can become whole again. I wanted so desperately to move on and never look back. But once I realized the depths of the weight I was carrying for years, I knew that it would take time to learn how to heal and let go. 

Practicing forgiveness helps you let go of everything that’s consumed you. To forgive those who hurt us deeply, or to even start the process of forgiving ourselves for something that we’ve held onto for too long. Once you’re able to shift your energy and emotions into something positive, you’ll find that what bothered you before isn’t a concern anymore because you were able to let it go. You won’t forget what happened, but you’ll learn how to let the past be the past without letting it affect your life anymore.

Practicing Forgiveness Can Set You Free

When we harbor feelings of resentment, bitterness, or anger, we aren’t allowing ourselves to move on from what hurt us. You might not know how to let go when all you’ve been doing is holding on. Not forgiving somebody locks you into a house that you don’t want to be in, without a key to escape. Looking inward and discovering why you can’t let go, or why you’re still hanging onto the painful memories, can help you work through it and set you free.

Once I was finally able to forgive the person who profoundly hurt me, I became more free than I ever felt before. It’s one of the hardest things trying to forgive somebody when we aren’t getting closure or the reassurance that the other person is sorry for what happened. Sometimes, you might never receive the closure you’re desperately seeking, but practicing forgiveness can set you free from feeling like you’ll never be able to move on without an apology. 

The best closure can come from us learning how to give closure to ourselves, regardless of somebody else’s actions. The longer we hold onto a situation, the harder it becomes to learn how to let it go. To experience healing and finally feel free from a situation, we need to practice forgiveness without expecting something in return. When our mind is still clouded with the painful memories, we’ll continue to fixate only on that. But, if you start seeing the situation in a different light altogether, you’ll be able to put that hurt to rest. Setting you on the path to healing, and making you feel more free than you ever have before.

Forgiveness doesn't mean excusing what happened. It means looking beyond what happend for your inner peace.

Practicing Forgiveness Can Give You More Understanding

Once you start realizing that what happened to you has nothing to do with you, but everything with how the other person feels about themselves, it helps you learn how to separate the situation for what it is. I became more empathetic and understanding, because it taught me more about myself and others. I was even more compassionate towards people who were in similar shoes as me. It’s easy to make assumptions about situations when we’re on the outside, but once we’re on the inside, we might see it in a completely different light.

Throughout my healing process, I learned quickly that forgiveness isn’t black and white. There isn’t one single answer that cures all, or that helps you automatically forgive, when you’re not sure how to find the strength to let go. Each time you face a situation that requires forgiveness, you’ll be faced with the choice of learning how you’re going to be able to forgive and move on. Once you start to understand that practicing forgiveness helps your inner peace, you’ll be able to start healing and releasing all the pain you’ve been holding onto.

Practicing forgiveness for inner peace takes time. Once you start the healing process, you’ll find over time that it gets a little easier to let go. It’s not worth allowing anything to consume you that doesn’t positively affect your life. Remember that you can forgive somebody, and at the same time, choose not to allow their behavior in your life anymore. Forgiveness doesn’t mean erasing what happened. It just means moving on and letting go, not letting it consume you a second longer than it deserves to. Some things are too heavy for us to carry. Holding onto feelings of unforgiveness at the sacrifice of your inner peace is one of them. Each time you forgive somebody, you’ll have to learn how to navigate through the healing process. But you’ll always make your way through, finding a renewed sense of inner peace.

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  1. 2.23.24
    Roshel said:

    Damn! Love this, what a powerful article. Thank you so much for sharing. 😀

  2. 2.27.24
    Riyah Speaks said:

    Forgiveness is such a difficult thing to do. I grew up in a family who held grudges so to forgive is new to me. But I’ve learned that forgiving is not about forgetting what a person did and pretending it didn’t happen. It’s about finding peace with what’s happened and learning how to move forward. Amazing post!

    • 2.27.24

      So true! It’s such a balance of learning how to let go while processing through the hard emotions that come with it, which can be one of the hardest things to do. & thank you so much!

  3. 2.28.24
    Katie said:

    I was hurt recently by someone who I thought was a good person. I’ve been upset by his actions but realized his actions are a reflection of how he views himself, not me. I am choosing not to take it personally. Your post reminded me that to let go fully, I also need to forgive him. Thank you for the reminder.

    • 2.29.24

      I’ve definitely been there, that’s one of the hardest things we can learn how to do. It’s difficult not taking it personally when it affects us so much, but once we realize that it doesn’t have anything to do with us specifically, it becomes a little easier. I’m so glad it helped you, and hoping you find all the healing you need to move forward ❤️

  4. 2.28.24
    Dany said:

    Forgiveness is SO important to inner peace!! It’s hard to move forward with others, with ourselves if we don’t practice it. Great article!

    • 2.29.24

      Absolutely!! It took me a long time to learn that, but once I did, it became so much easier forgiving and moving forward.

  5. 3.6.24
    S said:

    Nice article! Very helpful!

  6. 3.27.24
    Megan said:

    Thank you for this article. Forgiveness is hard sometimes but it’s good to remember it helps bring peace. I think peace is something we are all looking for.

    • 3.27.24

      Very true. Finding peace will always help us push forward, no matter what we’re facing. Thanks for reading ❤️

  7. 3.27.24
    Christine said:

    This is such a powerful post! Thank you for sharing your story. I really need to work on forgiveness towards people who have hurt me and I appreciate your guidance there.

    • 3.27.24

      Thank you so much, I really appreciate that! I think it’s one of the hardest things we have to do in life, but always necessary if we ever want to truly move on from the past.

  8. 3.27.24

    Forgiveness is the path to inner peace. It’s really for ourselves, more than the other person. Thanks for sharing.

    • 3.27.24

      So, so true! Which took me way too long to learn. But now that I know it’s more for ourselves, it’s helped me in other situations where forgiveness is required. Appreciate you reading ❤️

  9. 3.28.24
    Courtney said:

    Forgiveness is so important for you to move on! You don’t have to forget, but having the peace of not holding a grudge is just an awesome feeling. Great article!