5 Mindset Shifts That Will Change The Way You Think

If there’s one important takeaway I’ve learned through the hard times, it’s that perspective is everything. 

Our perspective influences the way we think and feel, regardless of what’s taking place around us. What we think shapes our truth, reminding us that we can’t always control the situations that happen to us. But we can control our mindset and how we choose to keep moving forward even in uncertainty.

Learning how to shift our mindset helps us let go of the ‘what if’s’ and the endless questions we can’t seem to find the answers to. It gives us reassurance when we second-guess or overthink our decisions, all while gently reminding us that we can still find joy, even when we’re in the hard middle. 

A mindset shift is when you reframe the way you think about a situation. When we’re caught in a negative mindset, we’ll continue to fall into a negative pattern of thinking. However, when we learn how to shift our mindset altogether, it can have a positive impact on our thoughts, feelings, and actions. Here are 5 mindset shifts that will change the way you think:

1. Not Everything Needs An Explanation 

After experiencing heavy grief this past year, those same feelings started to shift. I learned the true meaning of what it looks like to put my mental health first instead of last. The only person who was suffering from a lack of boundaries was myself, especially when I found myself constantly saying yes to things that didn’t bring me peace or benefit me emotionally. You can’t keep the peace for everybody else, while continually sacrificing your own feelings in the process. Because in the end, the only person it ends up hurting is yourself.

Not everything needs an explanation, and you should never feel guilty for saying no to something that you don’t actually agree with. If something doesn’t feel right for you, it’s okay to say no without attaching a lengthy reasoning to it. Setting healthy boundaries isn’t an option, it’s necessary for your mental health.

You’ll find a renewed sense of strength when you start putting yourself first, no matter what other people think about your choices. If somebody expects an explanation, it might be time to rethink their role in your life. The people who love you will always respect the decisions you make, even if they can’t understand them.

2. What’s Meant For You Will Never Miss You

Out of fear of letting go, I’ve held onto relationships and friendships far longer than I should have, even when I knew it was time to move on. How many times do we force something that isn’t meant to be, simply because we want it to work out?

We try to put pieces together to understand why things happened a certain way, or why they aren’t happening in the way we want them to. We think that if we can attach a concrete reason or control what’s happening around us, we’ll finally get what we want in the end.

But the longer we hold onto what we’re meant to let go of, the longer it prolongs what is meant for us. We can’t always see the bigger picture right away, and we won’t always have the reasoning the second we want it. If we focus on where we aren’t, it only takes away from where we are.

Hindsight is everything. Your inner peace is more important than trying to understand why something happened the way it did. Instead of being upset when something doesn’t work out like you thought it would or the answers aren’t coming as quickly as you’d like, try shifting your mindset. Usually, it’s beyond our reasoning or understanding at first, but we need to learn how to trust that something better is coming at the right time. What’s meant for you will never miss you.

3. Timing Is Everything And Sometimes It’s Not Your Time

After I graduated from college, it took me years before I found any sort of direction in my writing career. 

Initially, I thought that once I finally got my bachelor’s degree, I’d be able to get a job anywhere. But the reality is, I ending up waitressing for years, while quietly chasing my dream of writing behind the scenes.

I freelanced for different publications, but the income wasn’t substantial enough to leave my full-time job. I remember struggling to understand why something I worked so hard for, wasn’t working out how I thought it would. But as time went on, I started to see why other things had to unfold and come together first, before writing fell into place after. 

When we’re in the middle of a waiting season, it’s hard to understand the reasoning. We desperately dig for answers, yet sometimes searching harder only leaves us with more questions. In the years I was waiting for the right opportunity, I was learning and growing in other areas that I never knew I needed. I met my now husband, and who knows where I would be at now if I would’ve landed a career first.

Timing is everything. And sometimes if something isn’t happening in the way you want it to or how you expected, it might not be your time yet. Delays aren’t denials. Shift your mindset to accept that what you’re believing and hoping for will happen at the right time, even if it appears the exact opposite.

4. Actions Always Show What Words Can’t 

Words fall flat when there’s no action behind them. One of the most important mindset shifts I’ve learned is that when people show you who they are, believe them. We want to assume that people always have our best intentions in mind, but sometimes no matter how much we want somebody to change, they’ll only change if they want to.

Looking back, I could’ve saved myself from a lot of painful lessons and heartbreak if I characterized people by their actions, instead of relying on the words I thought I wanted to hear. It’s hard to accept what we don’t want to believe, but people will always show you who they are eventually. We can’t repaint the true colors of somebody else. We can only accept them for who they are, not who we want them to be.

Actions always prove what words can’t. And remember, it’s okay to outgrow people who aren’t growing. Not every person from our past is meant to make it to our future.

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5. Not Everyone Will Understand Your Journey, And That’s Okay

The best quote I read recently was that you don’t have to know where you’re going, to be headed in the right direction. Even if you aren’t sure what the next step ahead of you is, it doesn’t mean that you aren’t making the right decisions.

Nobody knows what’s best for you, besides you. As I mentioned before, I used to feel guilty when I wouldn’t make decisions based on what others told me to do. But once I understood the mindset shift that everybody can’t and won’t understand my journey, it became a lot easier to prioritize what was best for me, rather than everybody else.