Helpful Ways To Embrace Self-Love

Reminders For Embracing Self-Love

The journey to self-love takes time, effort, and patience. Once I realized I was always prioritizing everyone else’s needs, I came to terms with how much I was disregarding my own. We put so much emphasis, time, and effort into our relationships with others in our lives. But, sometimes it can be easy to neglect one of the most important relationships: the one with ourselves.

Self-love is learning how to accept and love yourself for where you’re at and who you are. It doesn’t mean that you’ll have it together all the time. But it does mean that you’ll learn to prioritize what is most important—without disregarding how you treat others. It’s a heightened awareness of your happiness, and what you can do to be the best version of you.

You don’t have to be in a certain place in life or living up to a certain expectation before you practice self-love. Self-love is finding contentment and accepting exactly where you’re at, while working towards who you want to be. While the journey to self-love might look different for everyone, here are helpful ways to embrace self-love: 

Show Up For Yourself Each Day

The best thing I learned how to do was make the commitment to show up for myself every day. Deciding to commit is hard, but what’s harder, is keeping that commitment. Self-love means showing up for yourself even on the days you’re not feeling motivated enough to do so. Find your motivation and learn how to stay committed for you and your overall health.

Prioritize the tasks and activities that are most important to you, so that you can continue to show up for yourself. If you want to live a healthier lifestyle, learn how you can work towards it daily. Even if you start small at first, such as figuring out what foods to add and subtract from your diet, or getting more steps in every day. I know I’m at my best self when I take the time to focus on things that make me feel the best, regardless of my daily circumstances. 

The best way to show up for yourself every day is to follow through when you say you’re going to do something. Making the intentional choice of following through will help you accomplish what you set out to do. Priorities might shift and change over time. But overall, staying committed and showing up for yourself daily will help you embrace self-love.

Changes happen over time with growth, patience, and persistence. There’s so much truth in the quote, “It takes 30 days to make a habit, 60 to make progress, and 90 to see results”. Once you stick with something and continue showing up for yourself, you’ll find that it becomes a part of your daily routine without giving it a second thought. 

Learn How To Let Go Of The Past

The biggest hangup on self-love is holding onto the past. We all make mistakes, but what’s most important is our commitment to learn how we can become better because of them. 

We owe it to ourselves to make a choice in not letting the past consume us. If you’re constantly fixated on past mistakes, you aren’t giving yourself an opportunity for a better future. Self-love and forgiveness go hand-in-hand. It allows you to recognize that while you made mistakes, you also learn how to forgive yourself. Knowing that your mistakes do not define you. Refuse to fixate on the choices that led you where you are. Instead, learn how to forgive yourself for the things that you know now. 

Focus on how you’ve grown or what you’ve learned. Never get so hung up on the past that you aren’t able to let go. No amount of wishing or hoping can change what’s already happened. Your past doesn’t reflect your future, but your present does. Give yourself compassion for the things you didn’t understand before that you might realize now.

Stay Away From Anything That Drains Your Energy 

I’ve mentioned before that I’m an empath. It’s easy for me to absorb other people’s emotions and energy when I’m around them. If I’m not careful, I know it can affect me emotionally when I surround myself with things or people that leave me feeling empty. 

You should always surround yourself with people who uplift you, care for you, and leave you feeling whole. It’s hard to practice self-love if you’re around people who are constantly looking for your validation or expecting you to fill their needs—needs that they can usually only fill themselves. Who you choose to spend your time with is important for your mental health and your own self-respect. When you learn how to put yourself first and know how to manage the things or people that drain you, you’re likely to not exhaust all of your energy. You realize that you can’t control anybody else’s reactions, and you learn how to avoid things that leave you feeling exhausted.

Separate How You Feel From What You Know 

It can be hard not to get caught up in the feelings of how we feel vs. what we know to be true. But remember, just because you think something, doesn’t mean it’s necessarily true. And this goes for feelings about yourself, too. Self-love is something we have to learn to work on from the inside. We think we’ll be happy when we get a promotion or lose that extra 10 lbs. But by attaching tangible items with an expectation, all it does it set us up for failure. If you aren’t happy and struggle to love yourself, all those things won’t amount to how you’re perceiving them in your head. 

While it’s not to say that those things won’t temporarily make you feel better, the true feeling of contentment and peace comes from being content with yourself. Instead of looking elsewhere, look inside for the things you can work on while waiting for the things you want. Self-love doesn’t mean you’re always exactly where you want to be in life. But it does mean learning how to be content with where you’re at before you get where you’re going. 

Be aware of anything that’s making you feel like you won’t be happy or love yourself until you have the things you want. Work on changing your inner thoughts to be happy with where you’re at while waiting and working towards what you want.

Prioritize Your Wants And Needs

Working towards self-love includes learning how to prioritize your wants and needs. Including not always conforming to what other people want and need. Learn how to establish your boundaries, including the times that you should say no. When you’re not comfortable with something, express those emotions and make your voice heard and known. Lean into ways you can practice self-care, and what steps will help you pursue your own goals and interests. 

Hold yourself accountable for the things that are important to you. No matter the amount of time that it feels like it’s taking to achieve what you’re working towards. Maybe you’ve been working towards a goal or a dream for years, and it feels so far out of reach from accomplishing it. Know that any amount of effort or work towards it is progress. The things we want to happen come with time, and just because you aren’t where you want to be doesn’t mean you can’t celebrate where you’re currently at. 

Give Yourself The Same Unconditional Love You Give Others 

Self-love means accepting yourself wholeheartedly and extending the same unconditional love to yourself that you give others. Give yourself the same compassion and kindness that you would give somebody else, especially during the hard times you face. 

It’s completely normal to feel disappointed or upset when things aren’t going our way. Instead of looking at it as a failure within yourself, separate those feelings and learn how to feel them without holding on. You are worthy of everything you have. You deserve to give yourself the same unconditional love you give to others. Remember that you can still find joy in moments of sadness, and you can still feel content and stressed at the same time. With self-love, our emotions can range, but try not to be as hard on yourself when things don’t go as expected. 

Embracing self-love doesn’t mean that you won’t have any problems. It means that you’ll learn how to deal with those problems because of the confidence you feel within yourself. You might not have it together all the time, but learn how to accept and love yourself for where you’re at rather than focusing on where you want to be. The journey to self-love is a continuous one, but worth every step when you learn how to accept and love yourself unconditionally. 

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  1. 2.14.24
    Carolina said:

    Self love is a powerful and much needing practice. Thank you for sharing such great tips and information!

  2. 2.14.24

    Learning to love ourselves is crucial to our well-being. I love that you pointed out the importance of showing ourselves the same unconditional love we show others. Great post!

    • 2.15.24

      Yes it is! Which can be easy to forget when we’re too focused on making other things in our lives a priority—but it really makes all the difference. Thank you so much! ❤️

  3. 2.14.24
    Christy said:

    I totally resonate with staying away from things that drain your energy!

    • 2.15.24

      I’m glad it resonated with you!! So important to surround ourselves with positivity & the things/people that uplift us!

  4. 2.15.24

    Love this! Letting go of the past is so important. I just shared an article on self-love as well… great minds think alike!

    • 2.15.24

      Thank you!! Yes it is, which can be so hard to do at times. & aww I love that! I’m looking forward to reading ❤️